From time to time the topic of "Why am I in my mid-twenties, doing well for myself and still single" comes up in conversation among some of my friends. After listening to this lament time and time again (I've come to the conclusion being single at this age affects different women differently). You find yourself throwing questions into the conversation like "what is going on?!", "Am i doing something wrong?", "Why is everyone getting married and I'm still single?". Then you start to wonder if some of your seemingly basic criteria is too much. Things such as race and age, which in turns gets you thinking "well maybe I should date a Latino, Asian, or White guy" or "maybe 2 1/2 years younger isn't so bad".
While a lot of women have over the top expectations, wants, standards and criteria for the man they are looking for must meet.... I don't think all of them are unreasonable or even need to be lowered. One thing I don't really think a young black woman needs to compromise on (unless she wants to) is on her desire to be in a relationship with a black man. Not to knock other races but there is something about a black man! They are hands down so attractive, good looking, have a way about them, a presence...something about them that speaks volumes. Swag outta this world that you can't but be attracted.
When I envision myself married...I see myself married and growing old with a black man. I want him to be a the father of my kids (if I have any hellions). I want a black man to be my protector, rock, the provider of my family. When I come home from a long day and get in my bed... I want to be cuddled up against a black man.
Granted the ration of black men is kinda slim between already being in a relationship, in jail/prison, gay, downlow, or a "dog". Even with all of that knocking a dent in the black male population, there are some good candidates out there. Because I do not believe for one moment that all good men are gone.
I feel that my desire for a black man isn't unreasonable or too high a standard or that I must broaden my racial horizons to find a man. I like and want the best...Why should I settle? Cuz there is just something about a black man that does it for me.
So black men...here is a women that appreciates YOU.
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Nicely put !! At the end of the day there is NOTHING better then a BLACK MAN !! Even though I have a thang for Latinos/Black .. At the end of the day THATS WHERE ITS AT ..
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